Evil Lives Here (TV Series) Kill Him, Save Yourself (2023) User Reviews

Hard to empathise with the mother

[TheDyingGirl · 5/10 · 19 June 2023]

First off forget the raving lunatic who wrote the earlier review. What a weirdo. Anywho from the episode the abuse didn't start one day. First it was about control about how the house should look then it was vocal shouting and then it proceeded to physical and then to the sexual assault of the daughter. It is really hard for me to empathise with the mother because she could have walked away earlier but given this was her second husband she probably was the type of woman who felt that she needed a man/ husband, a provider, a man of the house even at the detriment of her own children. Nothing will ever justify her offering her eldest to her husband, nothing.

As a parent she really failed in the worst possible way, better her daughter suffering to keep the peace than her walking away earlier. I know the kids want us to empathise with her but I can't because she walked away a little too late . It is shocking that the boy did more for his sister by staying up so that the father wouldn't call for his sister at night than the mother who took her own daughter to her husband's bed so that her husband could have his way with her like an episode of the handmaid tale. The mother also had the daughter leave the city in order for her to get a job first so that the whole family could join her. In hindsight that ended up being a good thing cuz she survived but again it was so that they could use her as a financial source. She often used her eldest as a crutch and to take some of the blows that no kid should ever have to. Why did it have to be Jessica's burden. I am sure they miss her but I would not put it pass this women that had she gotten a 3rd man she would not have offered her second daughter on the platter to her newest man like she did with the first. How awful.

David's an 'energy vampire'...

[UNOhwen · 27 February 2023]

Before I say anything about my feeling about this particular episode, I want you to know some things:

I think having the 'perfect' family's, or 'perfect life', is a myth.

No one I've ever known has, but, the point of living life is that, no matter what, once we're adults, our lives, are OUR lives, and NO ONE can take that away. We can soar as high as we want, or just become a person, who's almost the equivepant of that old Warner Bros cartoon image,wherein Bugs Bunny sold look at them, and as he's looking, the person's replaced by a giant, lollipop, with the wrapper saying, 'SUCKER', in big, bold letters.

I won't allow ANYone to hurt me, and I hope neither do you, because the ONLY way we allow others to hurt us, is if WE allow them to.

No, I didn't have anything close to a 'perfect' life.

I was sexually abused, and many other things, the details which I'm not going into.

But, that was in the past.

I have a plaque,; 'learn from yesterday, dream of tomorrow, and live for today.

There's no 'scale', to 'compare' the troubles of our earliest years. No one can fairly say, 'well, I was emotionally abused for my entire childhood, and that's worse than being sexually abused'.

That's nuts!

So, with that, I'm not going to say that what this family (and the two siblings, featured) was 'worse than', or, anything than whati went through, or you went through.

I know growing up as I did, it was HELL!

But, I've made a good life for me. It's mine.

As, I just said, this episode features a brother and sister - talking separately (from different parts of the country, I believe) about the nightmare they had growing up, in their case, it was a hyoer-violent father.

I found it very difficult to watch (the brother, David) talking, as no matter what he says, it's in this droning, flat monotone.

By contrast, his sister (who, as I said, we're all suffered differently), but there's no 'scale' to compare 'badness', yet, she speaks ... normally.

Even though the brother says he's 'still traumatised' by what happened, it makes me wonder, what kind of counciling , and treatment has he had, and what, exactly has left him so 'dead'?

But, I have to wonder if this droning of David's isn't 100% authentic, because we've all heard of someone, or know someone, or, ARE someone, who's gone through hell and back, but, are now far closer to 'better' than David.

Even though the horror ended (tragically) appx a decade, or more, ago,and several years after that,, a pictue's shown, of a now adult David, wearing his cap and gown, and his two sisters, all with very real (not faked, not forced) smiles on their faces.

A fake smile's easy to pick out when you realise a genuine smile involves many more facial musclesl than just the 2 major ones, which pull your smile 'up' at the corners.

Those photos don't lie; they're all VERY happy. And that's a terrific thing, so, now - several years AFTER that graduation, and several years PRIOR TO THAT, when the nightmare ended, yet, David's sits there droning - on, and on, and on, and...

I prefer the tone, and style, this show used to have, wherein the person who's story's about to be told, sits, and an off-camera assistant pushes a photo towards them. This, is just the whine, and whine style, and it's horribly fatiguing to stomach.

Another thing going against David, is several times, he says a variation of this; 'obviously, my life has been indescribably difficult, and full of tragedy that most people will never experience in their lives'.

Those are HIS exact words.

'Obviously'?!?!

Just try and walk into a support group, and tell the other memebrrs, 'I'm sure you had tragedy, but, mind's head over heels worse'.

Aside from being offended, they'd probably say, 'David, this ended well over a decade-plus, ago. Since that time, you went through high school, went to a university, and graduated, and now - several years after THAT, and you're STILL whining?!?!

Then, how come you and you sibling looked deliriously happy several years ago?!?'

Either one's going to stay mired in their miseries, or they'll strive to get free of them. You DONT progressively get 'better', and, then , at the proverbial 'drop of the hat', turn on the droning, 'poor me' attitude.

I was brought up believing there's two roads one can take; one - after having something bad, terrible happen, and then just sit there, like the proverbial bump on a log, with such obvious gloominess, that it makes others run.

The other, is to do WHATEVER it takes, no matter how hard, but, to do THE BEST we can.

No one minds when someone they know's hurting. No one would be adverse to doing whatever possible to help the person overcome their trauma.

But, there ARE actual people, who thrive on being constantly miserable, and if all they're going to do is kvetch and whine, they're just a bottomless black hole, sucking the life force from those around them.

Though I can't be absolutely certain, judging by this episode, and seeing the massive difference between David, and one of his sister's (I'm guessing the 3rd sibling didn't wish to participate), I really think that David's (what I refer to as) an 'energy vampire' - someone who could walk into any room, and instantly suck all the energy and oxygen out, leaving just nothingness.